Sex Q & A: I have problem getting satisfaction from the one i love

N_Vos, USA:

Dear Doctor, I have a strange problem. I am 18 years old, and had my first sexual experience 2 years ago. It was with my girlfriend, who i cared about. I consider myself oversexed, having started masturbationg at the age of 9. i have many fantasies, usually involving somone i don;t know, or barely know. MY problem, is that i have trouble getting a lot of pleasure from a girl that i love or care about. I have yet to cum with one of my girlfriends, but i had sex with my married next door neighbor, and it was great. But with my girlfriend that i love it is difficult.

Dearest N_Vos, USA

Your problem is not too strange - You started masturbation at the age of 9 that was a little bit early I guess, but not really abnormal ,13 % boys start doing masturbation at the age of 10.

You are not really oversexed , your tension is high due to hormonal instability of your body , soon it will be normal again in your twenties. This is the cause of all your fantasies too.

About your problem, that you get more pleasure making love with your married next-door neighbor than the girl you loved, was really understandable because your girlfriend has no experience in making love and was really afraid to do so, in contrary your mature neighbor enjoys it.