Sex Q & A: We usually had sex 3 - 4 times daily, My wife can't keep up, please help!

Yuzz, Malaysia:

Dear Doctor,

Thank you for your time to have discussion with me. I have been married about 2 years ago. The problem is that i want frequent sex with my wife. This is because i have a strong desire to have sex. We usually do this 3-4 times a day. Because of that, my wife told me that she often feel very tired. We have had a big fight once because i often want frequent sex. Is there any way for me to co-op with this problem? Please help me doctor, i'm really nervous about this problem. That's for now. I hope that you can help me to gain happiness in my family. For your information i have 5 feets, 8 inches height and 144 pound weight.

Dearest Yuzz in Malaysia

Well, as i said before that marriage is like unplugging a watertank. Sexual desire which is forbidden before married by religion, is released after you two get married. It is understandable that the opening of forbidden value is becoming an flood in the early years/months of your marriage. The several arousal is very enormous.

You can perform sex 3-4 times a day. Actually 3-4 times is still normal because some of the people do this 10-12 times a day, even sometimes 20 times in the day and night. That's why we know as newly wed goes for honeymoon after wedding. They go to a far, isolated place just to prevent them from disturbance. This way they can have sex as often as they want. This overwhelmed desire can be loosen to a normal frequency in the following years. It is recommended for the married couple, not to have a baby too soon and can have sex as frequent as they want. So, please use contraception in the 3-6 early months of your marriage, if it's going to normal slope then you can get pregnant if you want.

A normal sex frequency is very relative. It is influenced by many things. The First thing is husband and wife's sexual desire. The second thing is how good your sexual cooperation with your wife. A bad sexual cooperation can lead into a bad sexual quality. A good sexual quality has to be enjoyed by both sides. Don't do masturbation in your marriage. What i mean about masturbation in this term is that a husband who doesn't care about his wife's sexual satisfaction. A good cooperation also needs the same sexual preference. If both sides agree about a sexual position then it can be enjoyed by both sides. But, if there's one of you disagree about a sexual preference then one of you can't enjoy this sexual activity. This is a bad sexual quality.

So, the conclusion is that sexual frequency depends on how good is the quality of your sex life. If your sex life is good, of course there isn't any problems to have a frequent sexual activity. Try to talk gently with your wife and ask her about things she doesn't like in your sexual activity and also the things she likes. This way i hope can help you enhance your sex life quality and brings happiness to your family.