Sex Q & A: My lover can't ejaculate

Dear Doctor,

my 30 yr old lover has no problem staying hard for hours, even after ejaculation, his problem is that he wants to come over and over again, and we can't seem to get him to do this more than 3 times in a session--could be hours..he really wants to come often, and is very open to all aspects of sexual pleasure,,viagra and other male stimulants seem to just make him numb and unable to come at all,, is there anyway that would enable him to ejaculate more often,,as i said, staying hard and achieving erections are not a problem

Dear Sue,

As long as I know, the sexual performance of your 30 year old lover has already been in a very good condition or I can say he has very superb condition. If he can get up 3 times in a session and can stay for hours, then that’s already a very good / extraordinary performance for your lover.
I ‘m afraid we don’t have any drugs/methods to make people ejaculate very often. The ability to get erection and ejaculate is something which is born together with you, so it is an individual potency and cannot be changed by drugs or any methods. So, don’t worry just be happy with it, just remember that you had everything that has already been extraordinary in comparison to other people.
Maybe you can remind your lover and let him read Multiorgasmic Man book. In that book, Mantak Chia has stated that in Chinese custom, ejaculation is a waste of energy. So, Chinese (Taoist) tends to get many orgasm without ejaculation. According to him, that’s the healthiest thing. You can get many orgasm without having ejaculation.