Sex Q & A: Considering Having Sex

Dear Doctor,

i have liked this guy for a REALLY long time we have been together a couple times but we have not had sex. he would be my first if i did decide to have sex w/him. i have been considering it a lot lately. i am worried about the after days of having losing my vierginity. will i bleed? will i still be sore? will i walk funny? will my mom be able to tell just by looking at me? please respond as soon as possible before i make a mistake! thank you!

Dear Lind in USA,

To decide whether will you bleed or not in a sexual intercourse, it depends whether you had lost it or not before the intercourse because sometimes virginity can be lost by many things beside sexual relationship, such as excessive stretching of the thighs when you are doing sports.

Sometimes, when it bleeds, then it would be a little bit sore. Your mom or other people won’t be able to tell whether you are still a virgin or not just by looking at you.

Before you decide to have sex, you have to think to yourself about the risks of having sex before marriage. There are many risks you must consider, such as Pregnancy (are you ready to be a mother?), and sexual transmitted disease (Gonorrheae, Syphillis, Herpes, HIV/AIDS, etc).

I must say that the safest way of having sexual relationship, is by getting married before. Thank you